Why is Change Such a Dirty Word?
Updated: Nov 10, 2017
It is often said that the only constant in our lives is change. We experience changes in our lives on a continual basis, including the weather, relationships, work situations, technology, TV programs, sports standings, and the list goes on. There are two main types of change, internal change and external change. Internal change is created by us, in order to serve a purpose or reach a goal. Some examples are when we decide to establish a habit to work out every day, or to cut sodas from our diet. External change denotes those things that happen to us like being laid off from a job, facing a health crisis, or even a favorite TV show being moved to a different night.
Ask a bunch of people about how they like change and you will get a number of reactions. Many people are resistant to change, and they fight to keep the status quo. If you still use a flip phone, you might fit in this group. The attitude is "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." New upgrades in software are created by the Devil, and why can't I buy a car without all of these "gadgets"? Family dinners are always at the same time every night, with everyone in their regular seats. Routine is the key to a happy and comfortable life. Change is something to resist and fight.
Another group of people are those that fear change. They may not be very happy in their lives, but they are unwilling to change for fear that things may get worse. Ignoring things, or forgetting them, or just not letting them bother you is way easier than addressing and fixing problems. This group of people ignore change, and keep themselves extremely busy to avoid the realities of life, even as things may be falling apart around them.
“A strange group of people actually welcome and encourage change in their lives. "
A strange group of people actually welcome and encourage change in their lives. These are the innovators, who are always on the lookout for a new way of doing things. When daily life becomes boring and routine, these people will actually look for ways to shake up reality and make changes to see what happens. They welcome and enjoy change in their lives.
The last group of people just accept change. As they go through life, they analyze what changes they need to make in their lives in order to reach their goals. When the situation changes around them, they figure out the best path forward, seeking out the most effective path to create opportunities. Emotions about the change are not as important to this group of people. They focus on what "is", instead of what "should be" or "used to be".
We all know that life is filled with change. How do you react to change? What internal changes can you make in your behavior in order to reach your goals? How would you like to react when external changes happen in your life? What lessons can you learn when life is not going as well as you like?